IGBO MARRIAGE RITES IS FAR MORE CHEAPER THAN WHAT YOU THINK AND WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING.
Getting married to an Igbo lady is very cheap if you know the secret, or you are able to get an insider who will leak the secret to you.
So if you have found an igbo bride_to_be and you want to go ahead and make her your wife without wasting time; and at the same time you don’t have much to waste on unnecessary feeding of the community aka lavish party, please read on.
Before i continue, let me give you a quick preview of what this is all about and why you need to believe every bit of what i will be sharing with you.
WHY I MAINTAINED THAT IGBO MARRIAGE RITES IS NOT EXPENSIVE
“IT IS VERY EXPENSIVE TO MARRY AN IGBO LADY”. “MARRIAGE RITES IN MBAISE IS VERY EXPENSIVE”… Igbo marriage rites has been acclaimed to be very expensive over the years, yet:people
- The cart pushers, pure water hawkers, and house boys are still getting married to igbo ladies and living happily with their wives.
- The reason various Igbo communities have different categories of list for different categories of in-laws to be.
So your appearance, knowledge of their culture&tradition and bargaining wisdom determines what you will pay.
But the original list that is NOT inflated and manipulated remains one but very had to find.
So if you want to marry an igbo lady and you don’t have much to spend unnecessarily, please:
Step One. Brief Introduction
- Visit her place with her (for those whose parents lives in the village.
- Tell them you love their daughter and want to marry her (the lady must have informed her parents earlier).
- Tell them what you do and your capacity. Just explain yourself to them.
- Tell them you would have loved to do a lavish party and make them proud, but can’t afford it at the moment.
- Promise to make it up to them when you are fully settled.
- Assure them you love their daughter so much, that you will love her forever, and will take good care of her and the family at large.
- Them tell them when you are coming with your parents and family for the marriage rites. Once that is agreed on, tell them you will like to get the LIST the same day and even take care of the little you can. This will save you time and money (transportation and cooking)
Step Two: Focus on HER
“Brain wash” your bride-to-be, open yourself up to her, swear your love to her (only if it is real). Just do all you can to make her convince her parents/family that you are the very best for her and she can’t do without you. Once you win heart, it is half settled
Step Three: A Trusted Elder Can Help.
Please before you leave that village you need to make a friend, preferably a poor, popular and truth-saying Elder (just buy him snuff (N200 IS ENOUGH) he will guide you into all truth and help you on the day you will be facing the Umunna).
THE DAY OF THE MARRIAGE RITES
And on the day of the traditional rites, do not fail to go with an outspoken, fearless and vibrant elder from your own side (with such a fellow and the elder you have “bribed” earlier, you will not have to say a word till everything is concluded).
If you follow all these steps faithfully, you will know that there are different lists for different category of people (this is why those ear ring hawking guys get married without much stress).
Big list for big boys and slim list for average people, NO long list for poor dudes they just provide the basic things and walk away with their bride.
WHAT TO DO WITH IGBO MARRIAGE RITES LIST
The list will be huge, that is certain.
Step aside with your people (including the elder you bouht snuff). Tell them the exact amount of money you have and how much you are willing to spend (meaning you must go with enough money).
Don’t go with the list without providing those things you can afford on the list. Most people make the mistake of taking the list home without doing anything.
WHAT TO GO WITH ON THE CHOSEN DAY
A keg of palm wine, at least one original Seaman’s Aromatic Schnapps and Money. Before the day, you must have sent money for One carton of malt, and Two cartons of Beer. And you must also drop money for cooking (support them with what you have).
BASIC REQUIREMENTS TO GET MARRIED IN IGBO LAND.
1. The first stanza of the list (palm wine, Schnapps, snuff, …, less than #10,000)
2. The bride price (less than #10,000 Naira). Every other thing on that list is jara and you can do without it, but your father and mother in-law MAY not get share when other people’s children get married.
DO YOU KNOW THAT?
The entire list and its content is shared 50-50 between the community and the parents of the bride. That’s why if you are an average guy and you have a nice and understanding in-laws to be, they will advise you to settle the umunna (community) and leave there’s. This is just to take away shame and avoid being black listed.
So if you are a poor dude or you are just starting life; you just have to provide the basic marriage requirements and walk away with your bride. But remember, when things turn around for good, you need to go back and pay up. But that does not mean you are not fully married.
WHY IS IGBO MARRIAGE RITES SEEMINGLY VERY EXPENSIVE?
Wrong perception: some are still holding on to what they have heard in the past.
Rumour/hearsay (people saying what they are not very sure of).
Show of wealth(show them that you have made the money).
I want to belong (i must do my own like Mr A)
What will people say (“they will now say my own daughter got married to a poor man who could’nt afford all the items on the ambiguous list”).
Personal ego (“i want my in-law to come with a jeep, my daughter must marry a rich obodo oyibo husband”).
Greed (most parents are so greedy)
Feeding of the nation (lavish traditional wedding ceremony.
OTHER WAYS TO MARRY IN IGBOLAND ON A SLIM BUDGET
Opt out of traditional wedding ceremony: just provide them with the basic requirements and walk away with your wife. The best and most easiest way of doing it in recent time, is to do everything in cash, give them the money equivalent of all the basic requirements and that’s all.
HOW MARRIAGE RITES IN IGBOLAND BECAME EXPENSIVE.
Igbo marriage rites and ceremonies WERE NOT MONEY CENTERED until some guys went into 419 (fraudsters) , made huge money and came back home to marry. So it was that when they were asked for just one item, they will double it 10x.
Then the second sets of people that destroyed it all and caused the inflation of the lists, where the obodo oyibo (over sea) guys, they came and threw money at umunna in away that no one has ever done. Now no family will want there’s to be anything different, and that is the genesis of the whole problem.
Summary: It is very cheap to marry an educated and beautiful igbo lady and will continue to get cheaper.
But you need to go for a lady that truly loves you, and is willing to take the shame and insults JUST to be with you.
If she loves you and believes in your ability to wipe the shame away from her and her family in future, she will stand by you solidly (but never let her down).
Do you know that most Igbo parents just wish their daughter/s could just marry a very rich man, even if the man becomes poor after the wedding they don’t mind?.
Too bad right?
Igbo ladies are soo beautiful, faithful to their husband, industrious and highly supportive. So what are you waiting for? Go ahead and seek a beautiful igbo lady to marry.
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